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Remember how good it
feels when he speaks your name?
Remember that tingly
feeling when he touches your skin?
Remember how it
makes you just want to close your eyes and imagine the great possibility of spending
the rest of your lives together, no rules, no boundaries?
How about the
emptiness that scars your heart for every second that you are apart?
Damn, you were madly in love.
Should I ask anyone right now, I am assuring you that I’d get the majority of you saying that this is the best feeling in the entire world.
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It beats the feeling
of receiving gifts for Valentines or Christmas. It beats winning a Championship
game or being crowned as the Prom Queen. It beats the first goodnight kiss
after your movie date. Heck, it even beats the feeling of walking down the
aisle and finally saying “I DO.”
The state when you
feel that he would do absolutely everything for you is definitely the best
feeling in the world.
Until you marry him.
As much as I don’t want to generalize men, I grew up in an environment where most men I know seems to forget how much they once loved their wives.
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Well, at least back when she
hadn’t left everything she cares about for you. Back when she still carries her
father’s last name. Back when she can still wear her favourite stilettos and
figure-hugging clothes because she just can. Back when she can still go out of
the house smelling fresh and looking pretty fine.
Now that she left
her comfort zone to live with you (and sometimes with your family), now that
she has to forget about her parents’ last name which she had used to sign all those
pertinent documents with for the longest time until you had to change it to
yours, now that she can no longer wear her favourite stilettos and
figure-hugging clothes because she had grown big for bearing your children,
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now
that she had spent multiple sleepless nights to care for your children, now
that she wakes up earlier than you do just so you would have something to eat
for breakfast, now that her hands are full of blisters washing your clothes and
cleaning your house, now that she goes out of the house wearing ginormous
sweatshirts with unwashed hair and unmade face because she just had to hurry to
the grocery so you and your children would have snacks for when you watch the
latest movie on TV.
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Now that she had to be very careful not to offend your
friends or colleagues by asking you to come home early and help her with your
children just so she can finally have that bath. Now that no one seems to
notice that she is sick but just had to keep things together because she had to
take care of your children. Now that she even had to pray that she won’t get
promoted to a higher position than yours because she’s afraid that it would
hurt you and your pride. Now that she spends half an hour in the bathroom
crying and praying to God that you would notice how she is starting to
depreciate and sincerely praying that you would finally care.
You, men, just seem
to forget to appreciate the person that you once feel excited to see every Monday
at work, took to the movies every Tuesday, asked out for dinner every
Wednesday, talked over the phone until the break of dawn every Thursday, took
on dates every Friday, spend every Saturday morning on the bed staring as she
lies beside you wishing that the world would just stop just to be with her
forever, heard the mass with every Sunday and gave flowers to just because. You just seem to forget to notice that person
whom you asked from God for to spend the rest of your breath with.
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You men spend almost
half of your lives searching for the one who would bear and love your children,
will make you breakfast, will take care of you when you are sick, will support
you in all your endeavour, or will comfort you when the going gets tough but now
that God heard your prayers and gave you your better half and do all those
things that you wanted her to do –
YOU
JUST
SEEM
TO
FORGET
TO
APPRECIATE
HER.
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Now that you are
married, you find yourself hiding secrets from her. Choose to neglect her
presence while you are in the car on your way home. Prefer spending leisure
time with your friends and colleagues and regret it when she asks if you can
take her to the movies some time.
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You wish that
Mondays would be Fridays so you can have a drink with the boys. You wish that
there are no good movies shown on Tuesdays so you won’t have to pay for movie
tickets because you think that it would be better to save your money on something
more important. On Wednesday, you would like to come home early so you can
catch the replay of the Golf Tournament on TV. You’d love to turn in early on
Thursday because you know that you need rest because tomorrow’s Friday. You’d
ask her if you can go out for drinks with your buddies since its Friday. You’d
spend the entire morning sleeping because you drank too much yesterday. You’d
plan your Sunday going to Church and bringing your family to the mall because
you sometimes feel guilty for not spending too much time with them in the past
week and because you know that work will once again resume on Monday.
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How is it possible
that the person you can’t take your eyes off at is your least beloved person in
the world after marrying her?
How is it that you
can’t even spend one day doing what she wanted when she spends her entire life
at you and your children’s service?
How is it that you
had once loved her too much that nothing in this world could stop you just to
leave her feeling unloved after?
Most married men
forget that inside the heavy frame, inside the unmade, wrinkly face, inside the
unpleasant, always complaining woman in front of them are once that sexy,
beautiful, youthful, pleasant and content lady they once dated.
Most men, after
marriage forget to appreciate their women.
Most women, after
marriage just stops flourishing. Continually deteriorating from that once
immaculate being they were.
This is why some
married women feel unappreciated. Despite all the sacrifice physically,
emotionally and financially that they bring into the marriage, their husbands
don’t seem to care.
This is why some
women end up indifferent. They just stop asking and feeling. They wake up one
day telling God that although she loves her kids, she just don’t want to feel
anything anymore. She wants to protect herself from feeling hurt,
disappointment and neglect.
She lies to bed at
night praying that her sons and daughters would not have the same faith as hers.
She lies to bed feeling more alone than before she got married.
She closes her eyes
and wishes that one day, this nightmare would be over. That one day, when she
opens her eyes, she would see the man she once loved staring down at her and
seeing in his eyes that she means the world to him.
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